Vanessa Halliwell Relationship Counselling
PRIVATE COUNSELLING IN HASLEMERE, FARNHAM, SURREY, WEST SUSSEX AND ONLINE
Divorce and Separation Counselling
A confidential space to explore the thoughts, feelings and challenges in your life
When a relationship ends, it can feel as if the ground has shifted beneath you, leaving you unsure of who you are or where you stand.
About Me – Relationship Experience and Understanding
My interest in relationships is shaped by both professional experience and lived understanding. I have worked in relationship-focused roles and as a relationship coach, and I also bring personal experience of divorce, separation, affairs, and loss through death within relationships.
Growing up in a family affected by divorce across generations has given me a deep appreciation of how relationship breakdown can affect not just couples, but identity, family bonds, and a person’s sense of self.
This combination of professional and personal insight informs my integrative, person-centred approach. I offer a calm, non-judgemental space where clients can explore relationship endings and find their own way forward.
Divorce or separation can be emotionally overwhelming, whether the relationship ended through conflict, an affair, or simply because you grew apart and the love faded. Even when the decision felt necessary, the emotional impact can still be profound.
You may be feeling grief, confusion, anger, guilt, relief, or a mixture of emotions that are hard to make sense of. Many people find that relationship endings affect not only how they feel about the past but also how they see themselves and their future.
I offer divorce and separation counselling to individual adults struggling with the emotional impact of a relationship ending.
How counselling can help
Counselling provides a calm, confidential space to slow things down and begin to understand what this change means for you. You don’t need to have clear answers or know exactly what you want — sessions are shaped around what feels most important for you.
Counselling can help you to:
- Process grief, loss, anger, or emotional shock
- Make sense of what’s happened without blame or judgement
- Rebuild confidence and emotional stability
- Understand patterns in relationships
- Begin to move forward at your own pace
My Approach
I work integratively, adapting my approach to suit you as an individual rather than following a fixed model. At the heart of my work is a person-centred approach, offering warmth, empathy, and acceptance, alongside other therapeutic approaches when helpful.
I work with adults of all genders experiencing divorce, separation, or relationship breakdown.
Some people prefer a general space like this to begin with, while others find it helpful to read a page written specifically for their experience.
You may want to explore
Relationship Breakdown Counselling for Men
Relationship Breakdown Counselling for Women
My location
I offer divorce and separation counselling in Haslemere and Farnham, as well as online sessions. Counselling can be short-term or open-ended, depending on what feels right for you.
Availability
Counselling sessions for individuals last 50 minutes, usually taking place on a weekly basis. contact me to enquire about availability. Initial assessment appointments last around 75 minutes.
Fees
Single Counselling Sessions
£75 per session
Initial assessment Session
£95 per session
Note that if you want to cancel an appointment I require 48 hours’ notice; otherwise you will still need to pay for any sessions missed. I accept payment in cash, by cheque or by bank transfer.
Get in touch
If you’re struggling after the end of a relationship and would like support, you’re welcome to get in touch.
Feel free to contact me if you have any questions about how counselling works, or to arrange an initial assessment appointment. This enables us to discuss the reasons you are thinking of coming to counselling, whether it could be helpful for you and whether I am the right therapist to help.
You can also call me on +44 (0) 7760892231 if you would prefer to leave a message or speak to me first. I am happy to answer any questions you may have before arranging an initial appointment.
All enquiries are usually answered within 24 hours, and all contact is strictly confidential and handled via secure phone and email services. Find out more by reading my Privacy Policy.
Some frequently asked questions
Counselling is usually a good way to help with a current problem; something that can be discussed and - hopefully - resolved within a limited number of sessions. Over a certain number of weeks the understanding of the problem improves and away forward becomes clear. Therapy often describes work that goes a bit deeper, towards more substantial life issues and problems having a deeper effect on the client’s life. Therapy often requires a long-term approach, so the number of sessions can be open-ended.
Which option is most suitable depends on the client and the difficulties they are facing. In some cases counselling works well as an ongoing, longer-term option - or therapy can manage to resolve an issue in just a few sessions.
Everything that is said within the counselling room is private - this is one of the main ways counselling and therapy differ from talking to a friend or relative. Once you are comfortable with the format of weekly sessions and the safe space they provide, you will find the freedom to speak in confidence is of great value.
Note that there are some situations where you may be a risk to yourself or others, and there the law requires that I notify an authority; in these cases I may not be able to keep total confidentiality. Breaking confidentiality is very rare though, and only happens after the person concerned has been informed.
People who are nervous about entering counselling or seeking support in coming to see a therapist often ask me this question. This anxiety is understandable, but a key aspect of therapy is that you should feel free to talk about any issues you consider important to you. Having someone else with you who can connect those issues makes this opening up more difficult, so for this reason, I do not see clients accompanied by friends or family.
The length of counselling will vary from person to person and depend on the depth of the issues they face. For some people, a couple of sessions helps bring their problems into focus, and they feel ready to move forward; other problems may require a more open-ended approach.
Before we begin any work, we will agree on the number of sessions we’ll undertake, and at the end of that number, review our progress. As long as we both agree that further therapy will benefit you, sessions can continue.
My aim is to offer a first appointment - known as an initial assessment - within 1 week. We would then arrange a set number of counselling sessions to take place at the same time every week, at a time convenient for you and when I have availability. How quickly these sessions can begin will depend on the availability of that free ‘slot’.
“I came to counselling after my relationship ended and felt completely lost. From the first session, I felt listened to and understood, without judgement. Having a calm space to talk honestly helped me make sense of what had happened and rebuild my confidence. I’m very grateful for the support I received.”
West Sussex
“Ending my relationship was far harder than I expected, and I didn’t feel able to talk openly with friends or family. Counselling gave me a place to say things out loud and feel accepted. I slowly began to feel steadier and more like myself again.”
ONLINE COUNSELLING
“I started counselling after a separation and felt overwhelmed by guilt, anger and sadness. What helped most was being understood rather than analysed. The sessions helped me reflect on my relationship patterns and move forward with greater self-compassion.”
Surrey
“After my divorce, I felt emotionally exhausted and unsure who I was anymore. Counselling helped me process the loss and understand myself better. I felt supported at my own pace and never rushed. It made a real difference during a difficult time.”
London
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